My friend Jack and I are in the back of my parent's VW camper. He's wearing a denim jack with a sheepskin collar. For some reason he starts pretending he's watching a movie inside his coat. Lifting it open with one hand while wearing it and peering secretively inside. I know he's full of it, yet I insist he open his coat fully so I can verify that he's not actually watching a movie. I know it's not possible, and yet I still want proof. So, of course, he just keeps acting like he is watching a movie and that it's the most interesting thing ever. And whenever I ask for him to prove it he says, "Sorry. Can't let you.", while blocking my view and pushing me away. I still love him for that.
Everyone loves Jack. He's the class clown. The one always smart mouthing to the teacher. He's popular. He knows everyone and everyone knows him.
Jack and I live 3 block away from each other. His parents live in a rented cottage near the beach. It sounds charming, but really, they're just poor. His mom is somehow disabled and living off a paycheck from the state. His step-dad, I remember very little about, and his dad isn't around much, but prison is mentioned whenever his name comes up.
5th grade. Many nights we ride our bikes past my house, past his house, down along the sound. We skip stones into the shore and turn over rocks. Then we wait for the sun to fade into the water before, begrudgingly, heading home. One night we locate a tree swing in someone's yard. Their yard overlooks the water. We take turns pushing each other. We talk. I wish I could remember what we talked about. What do you talk about when you're 12 years old? But, still, we talk.
He asks me out. I accept. A week later we break up.
3 years later we don't see much of each other and we don't have much in common anymore. We no longer walk to school together because school is miles away now, not blocks. We are never in the same classes. We hang out in different crowds. There were no cliques in elementary school. Popular was popular. But now there are the preps and the rockers and the nerds and the jocks. So when Jack changes schools after moving in with his dad, I don't really remember saying goodbye or caring much one way or the other. I might have just assumed we'd keep in touch. Or more likely we had already grown so far apart that it no longer really mattered to me.
Isn't it strange how the people we still remember so vividly can disappear so quickly? And that we just let it happen?
I can never bring them back
But those days remain inside the very heart of me
My memories are white and black
But the song's the same
It plays in every part of me.
Last night I went searching for Jack online. I've searched before but his last name is generic. Proverbial needle in a haystack. Still somehow I managed to I stumble across his step-dad's obituary from 2006. Which is how I discovered Jack passed away in 1999. He was only 23. That sort of broke my heart.